For years we have
heard the saying “boys will be boys, girls will be girls”. This phrase implies
that the behaviors of boys and girls are hardwired into each of them. Although
there are obvious anatomical and biological differences between the sexes, Lise
Eliot argues that the common stereotypes we associate with men and woman may be
more socially influenced than ever previously realized. In her book, Pink
Brain, Blue Brain: How Small Differences Grow into Troublesome Gaps, Eliot
references studies which show that most male and female behavior is not
genetically influenced, but rather environmentally developed. From early
development, throughout puberty and even into adulthood, males and females are
given subtle (even sometimes unconscious) signs on how to act. They develop
their preferences, skill set and even their thinking style based on what is
reinforced at an early age.
In
the article I read by Frida Berrigan, titled “Who Needs Gender Norms? Not
Children”, Frida shows the positive steps she is taking to prevent giving
gender norms to her child. Throughout the article, there are other cited
examples of couples that went to extremes to make sure their child would not be
taught gender stereotypes. Berrigan cited one couple from Switzerland who
refused to reveal the sex of their child to anyone outside of their immediate
family in an attempt to protect her from sexual biases. In fact, countries like Sweden are so set on
gender equality, that they stopped use of pronouns like “him” or “her” in
classrooms, and instead refer to everyone by name or as “friends”. Even with these policy changes, directors
noticed differences in the way teachers reacted to students. For example,
directors noted that teachers consoled girls for a longer period of time, when
they hurt themselves, than they consoled boys. With boys, caretakers were more
likely to show a “tougher” form of love than to girls who they soothed and consoled
to a greater extent. The article goes on to show that after creating an
environment that is not norm inducing, the author’s son, Seamus, does not
follow the confines of sex specific activities; he likes to both play with toy cars
and pretend to cook (activities often considered to be delegated to opposing
genders).
This
article by Frida Berrigan, supports the idea proposed in Lise Elliot’s book. “Who
Needs Gender Norms?” shows real life examples, as well as the author’s personal
journey in raising a non-stereotypical child and the effects it has. By not
exposing her child to the biases of society, we have created experimental
trials, to really see the proportion of gender stereotypes, which are genetic
rather than due to social influences. From what has been observed thus far, by
both Berrigan and Eliot; preferences in play type, attitude and even emotional
availability are nearly identical between males and females at birth before
social confines are placed on them. Society is starting to recognize and
correct for the affect that gender norms have on people, and hopefully some
time in the near future, we will be able to live in a world where one’s future
isn’t predestined because of his or her sex.
References:
Berrigan, Frida. "Who
Needs Gender Norms? Not Children -- That's For Sure." The
Huffington Post. TheHuffingtonPost.com, 23 Aug. 2013. Web. 26 Feb. 2014
Eliot, Lise. (2009). Pink Brain,
Blue Brain: How Small Differences Grow into Troublesome Gaps - and What We Can
Do About It. New York, NY: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt Publishing Company.
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